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Coping with work stress
Apr. 12th, 2021 07:03 pmIt's been a tough month. Period turned up almost at a normal time, three weeks after last day of the previous one but my emotions have been really hard to cope with. Work has been very difficult. I work in retail, in a Greggs shop and I don't really get on with my manager very well. She is quite toxic, likes to spread gossip and play favourites and recently I've been the target of a few 'complaints' at work-and she's come into the staff room on my break and harangued me about being too quiet (I had the beginnings of a migraine), told me I need to make more of an 'effort' with my menopausal issues and basically reduced me to tears.
The sad fact is, she's a bully. And I hate conflict! I work extremely hard but I can be an acquired taste-I strongly suspect I have undiagnosed ADHD as I know I don't react the same as most people to stress (I am trying to get the ball rolling with getting a formal diagnosis) and I'm also from London but live in South Wales (my accent sounds sarcastic all the time). Unfortunately, this manager doesn't encourage people to accept others for how they are, she actively encourages spiteful comments so I'm finding this very challenging to deal with.
On the plus side, I did have to take action about doing closing and opening shifts at work (closing is until 6.30pm and the starting shift in the morning is 5am) My manager has a tendency to put me in for closing/opening about once a week despite being told that this causes major triggers for my migraines-I actually had to ask the senior sales member (who I get on really well with) to sit in with me as a witness and moral support to formally tell the manager that I cannot do these shifts at all anymore. (Especially with the bullying she's subjecting me to, I'm no longer willing to keep putting my health and well being on the line when I don't get any kind of recognition or support)
My period finished about 8 days ago and I'm feeling crampy with worse joint pain than usual again as though I'm due on! I think it's an ovulation thing-I know my progesterone levels are dropping as my periods are very heavy but I still need to do some reading to learn about how the hormones progesterone and oestrogen affect the cycle normally and how the dropping/fluctuating levels affect the whole thing. I have bought a book about the Perimenopause so I shall get reading!
The sad fact is, she's a bully. And I hate conflict! I work extremely hard but I can be an acquired taste-I strongly suspect I have undiagnosed ADHD as I know I don't react the same as most people to stress (I am trying to get the ball rolling with getting a formal diagnosis) and I'm also from London but live in South Wales (my accent sounds sarcastic all the time). Unfortunately, this manager doesn't encourage people to accept others for how they are, she actively encourages spiteful comments so I'm finding this very challenging to deal with.
On the plus side, I did have to take action about doing closing and opening shifts at work (closing is until 6.30pm and the starting shift in the morning is 5am) My manager has a tendency to put me in for closing/opening about once a week despite being told that this causes major triggers for my migraines-I actually had to ask the senior sales member (who I get on really well with) to sit in with me as a witness and moral support to formally tell the manager that I cannot do these shifts at all anymore. (Especially with the bullying she's subjecting me to, I'm no longer willing to keep putting my health and well being on the line when I don't get any kind of recognition or support)
My period finished about 8 days ago and I'm feeling crampy with worse joint pain than usual again as though I'm due on! I think it's an ovulation thing-I know my progesterone levels are dropping as my periods are very heavy but I still need to do some reading to learn about how the hormones progesterone and oestrogen affect the cycle normally and how the dropping/fluctuating levels affect the whole thing. I have bought a book about the Perimenopause so I shall get reading!
